Do we consistently reach win/win resolutions to our problems?
To get married, you must be sure you have great communication. The reason is that marriage is nothing but bag full of problems! I know this doesn’t sound very romantic, but it’s very realistic. Couples often mistake good chemistry for good communication. Just because you can talk for hours on the phone and feel very connected, doesn’t mean you have good communication. The only way you know if you have good communication is when you have problems. When there is a disagreement of any kind - small or large - you find out how good or how bad your communication is. The essence of good communication is that you can consistently reach win-win solutions to your problems and disagreements. This means when you are finished talking, both of you feel good about the solution. There are no bad feelings on either side.
will.wills2076 said on
Completely agree. The real strength of a relationship is known only when there are issues that need to be dealt with. Just because the couple talk for hours and enjoy a certain rapport does not necessarily mean that they are meant for each other. In a way, even problems are good as they are excellent pointers as to how strong the relationship actually is!
bestbetty87 said on
I agree with every word you said. I guess the easiest reolution to a conflict is to nip it at the bud. For instance, if you feel that a conflict is about to begin, then divert your mind and start doing something else which will engage you both. But then you need to think about the problem later in solitude and try to find a solution by stepping in his or her shoes. This almost always has positive results.