Some tips include using active listening skills, and acknowledging the other person’s feelings. It is good to focus on the topic of conflict and not bring in other issues from the past. Be clear in your message and ask the other person what they heard. Most importantly, stay polite and cool. Being rude and hot-tempered and escalate emotions and make a problem even worse than it’s made out to be.
Couples counselors have many exercises that will help couples with conflict resolution. The first is usually a lesson in communication. Using “I statements” and active listening can help avoid miscommunications that often result in conflict. Aside from those basic skills, exercises that can help with conflict resolution include role playing to better understand one another’s perspective; affirmations that help a couple see the things they like about each other; keyword lists of words that raise red flags; and echoing games where the couple can practice better listening skills. Many counselors will work with you to come up with a unique exercise that can help.
ABSOLUTELY! I work with couples all of the time and one of the main items we have to work on is how to "fight" (argue, disagree) and when couples can learn this along with some other fundamental principles, you can enter into a fight/argument/altercation/disagreement and know that things are going to get worked out, and that you will be a stronger couple because of it!