LoveCoach said on
Did you go into the counseling with specific goals in mind? Were you going because there are issues in your marriage or did you go because you wanted to deepen your relationship? I work with couples in a program called Relationship Rescue-911 For Love and we go through 12 calls, articles, exercises, quizzes, evaluations, and homework assignments that hit about every aspect of a relationship, and the cool thing is, the principles in this program not only apply to a romantic relationship, but many of them apply to that of a parent/child, sibling, co-worker, boss, and even friend relationship, so you are learning valuable tools to help you succeed in every area of your life! If you are interested in the program, we are getting ready to start in just a few days, so let me know and i can send you the information so you can get signed up!
LANE64 said on
Marriage counseling is a product of many things: your input and effort, that of your partner’s, and the counselor’s ability to effectively work with you. Change any one of those factors, and trying again after a bad experience may be worth your while. Given that most people change over time, one can assume that after a few years or even a few months, new benefits may be gained from counseling. You should be prepared to open your mind to change, work on any assignments you are given, and be as open and honest as possible with your marriage counselor.
SoulMate said on
LANE64 gave you a very good answer. The effect of marriage counseling combines several people's efforts and skills. Also your counselor needs the whole file of the issue you are facing in your marriage, not just pieces of information. Maybe you or your partner does not feel comfortable sharing the situation in front of a stranger from the opposite sex.. Bare this topics in mind and try again :)
Margoz said on
Maybe it wasn't the right counselor for you. Was it an experienced therapist specialized dealing with your kind of issues? Sometimes partners, especially when feeling vulnerable, don't feel comfortable sharing with a counselor from the opposite sex, as it was mentioned above. I shall suggest you try again, minding the advices given here. Hope it works this time :)
yesinc said on
Marriage counseling works but there are conditions. First, you have to be willing to do the work and strive to make changes (if you don't make changes, nothing changes). Second, you need to get rid of your ego and start working as a "we" instead of an "I" (get rid of the blame and focus on solutions rather than problems), and most importantly, you need to find a counselor with real training in relationships. Just because they are licensed and do marriage counseling doesn't mean they have specialty training in relationships. In other words, don't use a general practitioner (MD) when you really need a cardiologist. Keep in mind also that it takes time to make changes that last. It generally takes 4-6 sessions with a good counselor to start making real changes. It also greatly depends on how much you are willing to work on your relationship.