Many women have difficulty identifying an abusive relationship until they’re already deeply involved. That’s partly because of the way the abuse cycle works, and partly due to cultural blindness and conditioning or “grooming” of young women to submit to abuse. The abuse cycle begins with the pursuit phase that leads to a honeymoon phase during which time the abuser is loving, charming, sweet and kind. That is eventually succeeded by the build-up phase, where the abuser’s anger mounts, culminating in that “walking on eggshells” feeling. Ultimately there will be an explosive episode and afterward a remorse phase before the cycle starts over again.