If you’re in an abusive relationship, there are several things you need. The first problem is realizing that the relationship is actually an abusive one. That can take many years for some, while others may never come to that point. So how to deal with the fallout from the abuse? Take care of yourself as well as you can. Build out your support network and seek counseling to learn healthier coping skills. Keep a journal where you can write about your feelings and process new ideas about how to care for yourself. Most importantly, don’t blame yourself for the abuse and remember that you deserve to be safe.