I also agree spending some of your quality time on marriage counseling could only bring you benefits. It could rekindle your marriage or give you the right to file for divorce without any accusations. If you can keep a good partnership with your wife after divorce - do it! By respecting and obeying her will for counseling it will be much easier.
Many people avoid counseling because they see it as a sign of weakness or that it means something is “wrong” with them. That’s not the case at all, but the stigma attached to couples counseling can be hard to ignore. Couples who are considering divorce often do well in counseling because the stakes of failing are high. Marriage counseling is designed to give the couple relationship-building tools that can help them work through their conflicts and get back on the road to a happy relationship. If there’s even a small chance that counseling could help, why not give it a try?