Couples therapy can be very effective, but it helps to go into it with the right expectations. If you’re going to couples counseling to change your spouse, you should know that it probably won’t happen. If, on the other hand, you’re looking for better tools to manage your relationship problems, you’ll probably find success. You need to better understand what makes your partner tick (and what makes him/her go “boom”). You also can gain more insight into how the words you say carry certain meanings for your spouse that may be causing miscommunication. Lastly, counseling will train you both to follow through on goals and commitments, which will help the relationship last.