Many people make the mistake of thinking their marriages should make them happy. The phrase “happily ever after” may have set us up for this expectation, but in reality, marriage will make most of us happy and sad. It will challenge us some days until we want to pull our hair out. Other days it will be a source of pride and comfort to us. Most days will include some frustration and some small pleasures, but we need to look into ourselves for our happiness, and learn to see our marriages as God intended: opportunities for intimacy that will challenge us to grow and learn.