Couples who are looking into divorce are already in deep pain. The marriage may be the source of that pain, but it could also just be the fall guy. When we live with someone in our lives permanently, it can become easy to blame the other person for how we feel, or blame the relationship for not fulfilling us the way we expect. It’s important to examine whether the pain we’re feeling is really coming from our own past, our insecurities, or our needs not getting met. When we work to heal ourselves, it can clear up problems we thought were the fault of the marriage, too.
Get input! If your marriage is to the point of an almost divorce, get help and get it fast. Either go to a marriage counselor together or find a trusted couple for the both of you that you can be completely open with. Then without filters, but with sincere and in-depth conversation start hashing things out. Let down the walls and not only communicate vulnerably yourself, but definitely give your partner the space to do the same without judgment and with genuine care and love written all over your face and through your body language. Tell your partner how much you love her or him.