TRUJILLO said on
If you suspect your husband is cheating on you, why not have an open and frank discussion about your concerns? If you are so convinced he’s lying to you, then trust is already broken in your relationship. You will only further damage that trust by sneaking around to catch him. At the same time, you’ll be arming him with a legitimate complaint against you, that you can also not be trusted. You may feel that having evidence of his misdeed will put you in a better moral position to negotiate a solution to your marital problems, but acting on that instinct will only make things worse.
OliviaG said on
Firstly, be brutally honest with yourself. Are you just being paranoid or do you have any grounds for your suspicions? I wouldn’t ignore the feelings, but just try to get evidence to confirm or negate them. Often we ignore signs because we really don’t want to know. We realise the tremendous heartache and upheaval it will cause so we ignore the indications. Have you caught him out in a lie? Is h more secretive than normal? Is he spending more time than usual at work or on the computer? Is he secretive about who is phoning or texting him? Is he taking an unusual interest in his appearance? These are some signs that need to sound warning bells.
SHORT5 said on
Many husbands are experts at covering their tracks and somehow manage to live a double life when they are cheating on their wife. As a wife you probably know deep down in your heart that he is being unfaithful to you, but you just can’t prove it. You need to bide your time and keep your eyes and ears open. Tell a trusted friend or someone in a position of authority like your pastor, who can look out for you and cover for you. Sooner or later the truth will come out and your husband will not be able to deny it if he is caught cheating.
so_diana said on
Instead of focusing on 'catching' your husband, you must ask yourself how this will help you. The correct approach would be to question him directly if you are sure about your suspicions. That is a dignified way to approach and handle the situation....Have a dialogue with him. A marriage, after all is all about communicating with your spouse. If he admits to infidelity, then the decision rests on you to either stay in the marriage (by working out your issues) or quitting. Whatever it may be, it is not wise to stalk or do such activities that invades his privacy.