Breaking up with someone you love (or used to love) is devastating. You have a shared history and memories and it can be hard to let go. If you have really decided to end it, make a clean break. Don’t keep texting each other, or trying to defend yourself against accusations he may send in emails. Next, focus on taking care of yourself. Eat healthily, get regular exercise and fresh air. Walk in the sunshine and do things that you enjoy. Spend time rebuilding yourself spiritually, as a break-up will knock your self—confidence and self-esteem. Use it well and you can come out the other side a stronger and better person.
The sting of the breakup will only decrease with time, but at first it can be so painful that we make it worse on ourselves by not dealing with it well. Remember that the first and most important relationship you have is with yourself. Taking care of yourself during a breakup is paramount, as the stress to your psyche and your body is intense. Make sure you are getting adequate rest and moderate exercise. Eat good food and reach out to your friends for support. It’s OK to take more time for yourself right now. You don’t have to be productive. Find some way to laugh and enjoy the moment.