Couples with a prior history of bad relationships will have a lot of scars from earlier experiences. That doesn’t necessarily make them bad at relationships, but they will have to work extra hard to make their relationship healthy. We all learn bad relationship habits from our parents and those around us, and we often make the same mistakes they did –even repeat them throughout our lives. The best relationship advice for a friend is to learn from their past experiences and try to do better the next time. Look for ways to help them turn a failure into a growth opportunity.
If we continuously seem to have bad relationships, we may start to doubt ourselves and feel that we are better off single. The fact that you have realised that you have a problem, and that you are asking for advice, is very positive. Perhaps you could go to counselling together to learn to communicate more effectively. We tend to react in the way we have in the past, even if it does not work. Try to calm things down before it gets heated as we do not think clearly when we are angry. Try to do things differently – if you both always keep quiet and ignore the problem, try to talk it out next time.