When memories of lost loved ones cause us distress, there are several things we can do to deal with the situation. First, realize that you can’t push the memories away. They are part of you, and if they keep coming up, chances are there’s a reason. The best thing you can do to move through the painful memories is to fully accept and feel the emotional impact the memories have for you. Oftentimes, a memory can be fearsome because of how it makes us feel, but by accepting the feelings attached to the memory, we no longer need to keep reliving old experiences.