First of all, Congratulations! We understand the excitement, nervousness and curiousness before your much awaited day of the life. Marriage is the unison of two souls who should be willing to do everything to make it work. Try to have meaningful conversations with your spouse so that when there is a misunderstanding, it will be easier to sort things between the two of you without involving a third party.
Focus on your relationship and your future together and what you expect from one another in your marriage. DO NOT stress over the wedding or go broke on it. The only part of the wedding that really matters in your actual marriage is your vows. Choose them carefully. Mean what you say when you say them. Remember that trust is the most important thing in any relationship, so only make promises that are reasonable and that you intend to keep. Discuss your expectations, goals, dreams, worries, etc. with one another before you marry. Be sure you are both on the same page. Do what feels right for you and makes you happy and don't let yourselves be pressured to do what others want you to do. This is your life, your wedding, your marriage......so do it for you!
As newlyweds, you’ll be smart to prepare for the future. Newlyweds are in a state of bliss; things are fresh and new, and there are no issues or problems at hand. When this time wears off, however, the reailty of married life will set in, and you will settle down and start to become the people you’ll be in this relationship for years to come. Rather than just letting it happen to you, remind yourselves of what’s most important in dialogue with your partner. Agree to be accountable to one another, agree to let one another know the moment one of you is taken for granted. Agree to always talk out problems, no matter how small. Cover your bases as to have a dialogue in terms of expectations and family roles, for example, who will cook dinners every night? Who is responsible for supporting us financially – is it one or both of us? And deal now with any differences of opinion. Discuss how will you handle conflict down the road. Dealing with these issues before they arise is the single smartest thing you can do now – it will provide insurance for your happiness down the road.
Be patient with each other. Understand that you are both used to being individuals and now must start thinking of yourselves as part of a team. This is always hard to do. There is a steep learning curve the first year, I think. Especially if you have never lived together before. I think it's important to get to know each other again. This sounds weird because you obviously know each other, but I mean as Husband and Wife. Believe it or not, you will change a little bit from the girlfriend you were before and he will change from the boyfriend he was before rather quickly. I think this is natural. Everyone is adjusting to their new role. Get to know each other as these "new people."
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, Jensen! It’s very important to treat each other with respect at all times. Even in times of stress it should never get so overwhelming that you resort to blaming the other person or being mean just for spite. Try to remember that you are unique individuals with a different way of looking at the world and a different way of seeking out solutions. There isn’t necessarily a “right” way to do something. So, respect and compromise are very important.