There are a few free programs online that offer self help exercises; you can find these in some books as well. I advise starting with some questions; you can almost make a game out of them. The very act of putting together your own toolbox and creating games and exercises can promote bonding in and of itself. Going online, you can search for marriage questions as place to start the creativity flowing. You could make index cards, starting with ten or twenty questions. You and your partner will take turns asking and answering one another’s questions. The type of questions you want to ask should relate to personal feelings and views; try to aim for questions that will yield answers to aspects of your partner with which you are not totally familiar.