If your marriage is in trouble, recognize that you will need to enlist the help of caring professionals to help you through the malaise. Seeking an experienced, competent counselor is always the first, best step. A counselor will help you and your partner address the unresolved issues that continue to plague the marriage bond. This process, while painful and lengthy times, is a must because of the insight the counselor brings to the table. Also, recognize that BOTH partners contribute to the marriage trouble.