BYRD54 said on
Perhaps the first question to ask when selecting a couple’s therapist is, “What is your approach?” Therapists usually ascribe to a certain approach like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or the Family Systems Approach. Additionally, some therapists brand themselves as “Christian Therapists” while others adopt a secular point-of-view. These various facets of counseling are significant. Also, it is important to consider the counselor’s overall experience, and there experience with your particular issue. So much to consider! At the end of the day, if you do not feel comfortable with the counselor you have selected, there is no harm in selecting a replacement.
crystalbella said on
Pick a therapists who most of all makes you feel comfortable. For all the education in the world, sometimes therapists can be very judgemental and impose their personal views on you as a couple. Also, find one that can retain objectivity throughout the sessions. This is important as the objectivity plays an important part of conflict resolution that will make appease the both of you. Lastly find a therapist who advocates marriage techniques that are easy to apply, and do not impeach on your values and beliefs.
redrice89 said on
All the commentors above give great tips on how to choose a therapist. I will agree is with crystalbella on choosing a therapist who is not judgemental and does not impose his or her views on how you should lead your marriage. But a therapist is supposed to provide a solutions to your problems, even if you don't like the solutions one bit. It's also about being open to the process of damange recovery in your marriage, but knowing when to draw the line if the therapist is too rigid.