Those who are not happy in a relationship should always first determine if they are happy with themselves. If you suffer with low self-esteem, it may be virtually impossible to craft a healthy relationship. If it is determined that adequate love for self is in place, then it becomes important to discern which facets of the relationship continue to feed your pain and grief. Are the issues fixable? Is your partner willing to work with you in mitigating some of tunsavory facets of your relationship? Sometimes the best and only course is stepping away from the relationshiphe . And seek help from trusted friends and counselors for guidance and support.