While the healthiest among us wish for our partners to feel happy and self-actualized, we are unable to feel for them. My point? While our words and actions may contribute to our partner’s malaise, we cannot “will” them to be happier or healthier. We can, however, affirm our partners when they take proactive steps to better their lives and mental health. It is also helpful to understand that relationships have an intrinsic “ebb and flow.” Some seasons are wonderful, while some can be devastatingly heavy.