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The secrets, the lies, and the half-truths associated with an affair do unimaginable damage to the marital bond. If the marriage is to be saved, full disclosure must be the first step. The unfaithful partner must be willing to cover all issues – partners, duration of the relationships, etc. – for the rebuilding to truly begin. Both partners must also share a willingness to engage in intense counseling so that the issues underlying the infidelity may be processed. Additionally, and perhaps most importantly, the affair must end immediately.