Breathe, friend, you are going to get through this. Step one is self-care. Take a walk, engaging in some breathing exercises and prepare body and soul for the grueling work ahead. If you are in crisis, find a church, synagogue, or mosque and ask the clergyperson at one of these institutions to help you triage current difficulties. Second, surround yourself with non-anxious support. Close friends and family members may be your best options here. Finally, determine if your partner is willing to engage in conversation about the current difficulties.