Twice in Divorce Court.
If my husband ever decided to move out of the house, then I would graciously assist him in packing his bags!
Does he not realize that you all have four children, two that are under the age of 2? What does he expect from you? I am a parent of five kids, three boys and two girls. If my husband ever complained about the “lack” of my contributions to the house or our relationship, I would give him a one way ticket out of our marriage. Having children is not easy, especially having multiple children under the same age. I think you should re-evaluate your relationship with your husband. I think your biggest mistake was to try the second time. You couldn’t work out your marriage issues and you all went through divorce proceedings twice. Then you tried to work things out, again but more issues arouse.
I am slightly confused why after the first time you all were in divorce court you didn’t just go through with the divorce. I’m slightly confused with the two attempts in divorce court, maybe one but not two. I think your biggest issue was trying to make something work that isn’t meant to be. You can’t make a man grow up. Men mature at a different rate then women.
I remember back in the late 90’s when I was having problems in my marriage and we mutually agreed to get a divorce. After months in the courtroom, we decided to give our marriage another chance. Biggest mistake of my life! We were living in separate houses and sharing custody. Our parents were also in our marriage. Our friends were in our marriage. Our marriage was no longer our marriage, but a public relationship with the world.
Moral of the story: get your marriage and life under control. It sounds like you have lost control of your marriage and life. When I figured out what I truly wanted in life, it wasn’t my family or friends. Took a while for me to realize, it wasn’t him either. I needed to find myself in life and I stayed in a marriage for the wrong reasons.
Good Luck, Been there before!