If you feel that you have problems in your marriage, it is important to establish in your own mind whether or not these problems are the normal inevitable struggles which occur in every marriage, or whether they are over and above the normal struggles. One way of gauging this is by asking yourself if there has been any progress over time. Do you still fight about the same things all the time without reaching any solution? Or have you solved some issues, moved on and are now dealing with different issues? Another important question is whether there is a willingness in both husband and wife to deal with issues, or is there a one-sided attempt to address the problems in your marriage.