Before getting married every couple needs to communicate extensively and openly with each other, sharing their expectations for their relationship on a wide range of topics. Five of the essential areas that would need to be covered are as follows: Relationship Goals and Personal Habits; Why are we getting married? What do we as a couple want out of life? Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage? Finances; Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money? Do you want to have a budget? Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury? Family; Do we want to have children? What was your childhood like? How much time will we spend with our in-laws? Sex and Intimacy; What are your expectations of our sexual relationship? What is your love language? What are your expectations about how we will spend our free time? Conflict and Communication; How will we make decisions together? Are we both willing to face into difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict? Are we both willing to work on our communication skills and to share intimately with each other?