Marriage problems need to be identified clearly before they can be solved. Sometimes it is not easy to identify the issues exactly, especially when you are so deeply involved in the situation. This is where some objective views are invaluable, if you have trusted friends or your pastor who can see into your situation and help you to realise the issues at hand. There are also many helpful marriage books in which you can read about others who have struggled in similar ways as you do, and how they have been helped. Prayer is an important way to get through marriage problems, as you ask God to help you and show you where you can change.