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I'm scared to go for couples counseling. But my partner insists. How should I overcome this fear?

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Marriage.com said on
If you really love your partner dig deep into your love for him or her to overcome, ask for help in prayer, or push down your feelings and get over it. I wouldn’t recommend the latter necessarily, but sometimes you just gotta suck it up and do what’s best for your relationship. Figure out what you’re scared about and be open about it with your partner and/or someone else too to be able to talk through it and then be open about your fears when you finally do start the counseling too. This will open incredible doors for you in your relationship.
Amy-Kate said on
You need to ask yourself why you are scared. Is it because you don't want to talk to a stranger about personal issues? Is it because you are fearful of them judging you or finding fault with you? I find that if I am afraid of something, it helps if I imagine myself standing facing the fear, and I ask myself if it is really so scary. If you can work out what you are afraid of, maybe it won't seem as overwhelming.
LindaL said on
Maybe you should go first alone to see a therapist and discuss with him your fear of couples counseling. It could help you reveal the roots of your fears and then work on overwhelming them :) This is something important for your partner and your partner is important for you, so you have to deal with the situation. There is nothing to be afraid of. Professionals will help you to fix any problems you are facing in your relationship :)
crystalbella said on
Take a deep breathe and just take the plunge. We all get scared when we're made to do something that we may not particulary like. We might will form up our ideas in our heads bout how horrible the experience will be without any firsthand knowledge of it. Sometimes when we take that first step we realise that it's not so difficult after all. Marriage counselling is not meant as a blaming session against you, but in fact is a great way to learn more about a marriage and effectively manage it. Go for it!
anthonyjones said on
Going for couples counselling might seem like you have failed at your marriage, but I personally feel that even couples who seem to be getting along well can stem to learn much from a counselling session. It isn't about admitting you are at wrong and incapable of handling a marriage, but rather acknowledging that marriage is in fact a momentous task which can definitely benefit from the objective inputs of others.
LovelyDay said on
Don't be scared, Pickworth, these people are professionalists. Their job is to comfort you and help you heal the issues you are facing in your marriage. Assume it as a meeting with a new specialist you need for your business. Be a good client, provide the specialist all the information needed and let him do his job.
mathisurendran said on
Marriage counselling points out where your relationship is going wrong. Nothing else. It cannot work wonders in your married life. Marriage counselling has become the new trend because you do not make any efforts to nurture your relationship. In fact counselling can make your problems worse when your mistakes are pointed out from the angle of the counselor.
Why don't you solve your problems between yourself? It works much better.
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