The Bible says a lot about marriage in general, and especially about husbands and wives, but when it comes to marriage vows, the Bible isn’t really clear. In the book of Ephesians, God instructs wives and husbands, saying to women, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” And to men God says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself.” These are popular passages that a lot of people have read at their weddings, and some may even integrate these words into their vows, but there isn’t exactly one set of Biblical vows to use.
"And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her” Ephesians 5:21-25
i love this from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7! Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.