Equality in marriage does not mean both partners are the same. What it does mean is that each party’s feelings, needs, and beliefs are just as important as the other’s. Equality in marriage is about equal power distribution. When one partner violates the other person’s boundaries, or disregards their feelings, they are demonstrating their power over their partner. This causes a lot of pain for the person whose power has been robbed. Understanding how the things we say and do can create this painful experience for our spouses is essential to avoiding power struggles. If we care about our marriage, it’s essential that we understand how power and equality work.
Marriage equality has been determined to be legal everywhere in the United States. A decision in June, 2015 by the U.S. Supreme Court held that same-sex marriage is a right that is protected by the U.S. Constitution and the Equal Protection clause of the 14th Amendment. This comes after decades of turmoil and political debate on the issue, at a time when many lawsuits were making their way through the court system. Many people have been concerned that same-sex marriage devalued the concept of marriage, but public opinion has changed over time. Now a majority of people in the U.S. believe same-sex marriage should be legal.