Delvin said on
Equality in marriage does not mean both partners are the same. What it does mean is that each party’s feelings, needs, and beliefs are just as important as the other’s. Equality in marriage is about equal power distribution. When one partner violates the other person’s boundaries, or disregards their feelings, they are demonstrating their power over their partner. This causes a lot of pain for the person whose power has been robbed. Understanding how the things we say and do can create this painful experience for our spouses is essential to avoiding power struggles. If we care about our marriage, it’s essential that we understand how power and equality work.