Counseling is the solution which is useful for both the partners who are willing to make good changes in their relationship. So if you have attended counseling without your wife, it won't be effective for your relationship at any cost. Read some books like Do's and Dont's of a marriage, take suggestions from experienced couple who have survived years of hardship and still have come out stronger. Watch the videos in the Rewarding Marriage Kit about relationships and explore common issues faced by life partners. T
Couples counseling is ideal for couples who want to stay together but have a hard time getting along. A couples therapist can help couples understand what causes problems in their relationship. They will offer tools and strategies that can be used to increase awareness of the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of the relationship, as well as suggestions for resolving or de escalating conflicts. They can help couples see things from the other side of the relationship, and offer analysis of the personality types at play and how they affect communication. A couple usually finds their communication skills improve through counseling, and they find it easier to connect with their partners.