Remember that in communications there are always three parts: the speaker, the listener, and the message. The speaker crafts the message with his or her own ideas, perspective, and language. The listener may not hear the message the same way, due to his or her own beliefs, attitudes, and cultural frame of reference (“filters”). The way to improve communication in your marriage is to talk openly about problems, focusing on feelings and especially how each party in the marriage experiences things differently. Understanding one another’s “filters” will help you comprehend the other person’s point of view more clearly, and strengthen your bond.