If you have encountered emotional abuse in the marriage, you are not alone. All you have to do is find the strength to put a stop to this behavior. First, you need to come to grips with reality. Don’t make excuses for your abuser. Instead, understand that you have rights as both a human being and as a spouse. You have the right to form an opinion and make your own decisions. You deserve freedom from blame and criticism. You have the right to be respected, valued and supported. Secondly, you MUST seek advice from a mental health professional. The journey towards recovery is not one that is easily traveled alone. A therapist or marriage counselor can help you through this traumatic time.