Ultimately, forgiveness is for your benefit of the victim and not the partner who engaged in the infidelity. The victim’s willingness to release the anger and resentment that results from marital infidelity will help the victim on the path of restored physical and emotional health. That said, the words “I forgive you” help both parties move beyond the season of duress. If the marriage is to be restored and maintained, the partner committing the infidelity has to be willing to change behavior and remain accountable to the partner who was victimized.
Infidelity is tricky because it destroys trust. Many times, people who are unfaithful cheat more than once. If you believe it was a one-time lapse in judgment, try to rebuild this trust through open communication and therapy. If you believe it might be a pattern, it may be wise to leave the situation.