Infidelity is an egregious betrayal of trust, an emotionally-charged situation, and a very personal issue for the couple involved. The person who is the victim of infidelity should take the time they need to process. No decisions should be made right away, and the spouse who was betrayed will need a counselor, and a non-judgmental friend or confidante. Lots of people will have opinions about what the person should do, they may encourage the person to leave their partner, or will make negative comments. Although their intentions are positive, the person most deeply affected by the affair must make their own decision, and have their decision respected. If choosing to stay in the marriage, both partners must make a commitment to exhibit trustworthy behavior, and to apply any strategies that are recommended by the counselor.