GARCIA said on
Empathize: Nothing says love better than being able to empathize even if the other person is wrong. Understand that they feel hurt or upset because they feel a certain way and acknowledging that is a great deal for the other person. Understand and agree to what they are saying and try to get around the problem through some means.
CARTER5 said on
Express the intentions at first. You both are getting together not to talk about differences, argue and end up fighting over it. The purpose of the conversation is to try and fix the problems that are being suppresed to have a better relationship that is stronger. Have that specified and try to get things sorted.
Jeremiah said on
Some marital problems can be resolved without counseling, but attempts to avoid counseling are also avoiding addressing the problem. Being able to solve problems on your own also depends on the type problem. how well you communicate, and how willing you and your partner are to work at making changes without support. If the buy-in isn't there to start with, it is unlikely much will change. The approach you will take depends on the issues at hand. Reading self help books,learning communication skills, and reading relationships literature may give you some tools to use on your own. Just be sure you are keeping your partner in the loop. Fixing a marriage takes work from both parties; so be accountable and hold your partner accountable too.