Abuse takes on many forms, and in general, abusive marriages are dangerous partnerships. Overall, it is more important to secure your safety than it is to worry about the logistics of divorce. Start with initiating separation. Though it depends on the risk and severity of the situation you are in, many women create a backup plan if they are afraid their partner will not let them leave, will hurt them, or retaliate if they do. Since control is a feature of abuse, talking about your plans to leave may only anger the abusive partner. If you have already thought of leaving, chances are it’s the right thing to do. Plan to stay with a family member or friend, or someplace private where the abusive person is unlikely to find you if you think they will try. If you are afraid for your safety, call a local Women space or crisis line for help. They can help women in abusive situations confidence and get back on their feet.