Continue marriage counseling throughout your relationship and commit your spouse to prayer. You cannot change your spouse, but they can change themselves. If you need help because you are being abused in any way, you need to confide in family, friends, and the appropriate authorities. You do not need to deal with this kind of issue on your own.
There is some good news if your marriage seems to be in trouble. Simply put, help abounds. If you are church/synagogue member, enlist the help of your clergyperson. Their expertise and insight are built upon hearty experience and a sound education. This type of counseling tends to be free. If marriage difficulties involve addiction, abuse, or mental illness, do not hesitate to seek the counsel of a therapist or psychologist. Most mental health services are covered under insurance plans. For those with no insurance and a low income, ask providers about a sliding scale for payment. In marriages marked by physical abuse, leave the marital home, keep children safe, and consult with law enforcement.