Trust issues will kill a marriage. But I have a good reason why I lost trust. My husband does not hide the cheating.. So its so hard to trust a man that says he wants to save our marriage. Then hooks up with a chick he met on line. I caught him talking to her this past week. I will ask him about this but he will lie again.
Trust takes years to build and seconds to destroy. The problem is that the person who broke the trust often gets impatient when the other person takes a long time to trust them again. I have seen marriages become happy and fulfilling again even after infidelity and illegitimate children so it is possible. But it will take a lot of love, commitment, patience, tears and work to rebuild it. It can be stronger than before if both people are going to fight for it.
Trust issues can devastate the marital bond. If you are dealing with trust issues, the first question to ask is, “Was this an issue before I met my partner, or do his/her actions feed my trust issues? If you answer affirmatively to the first part of the question, seek therapy that focuses on family systems or cognitive-behavioral intervention. If you answer affirmatively to the second portion of the question, healing will necessitate you and your partner agreeing to submit to couple’s therapy to explore the issues that led to distrust.