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I am confused about my girlfriend.

For last 6 months, I've been with this girl and I was seriously thinking about proposing, and marriying her in the summers. All went well; we were even living together and we were happy and so looking forward to being married. I mean I definitely was looking forward to it! And now, she tells me that she needs some more time to think about our marriage. I asked her why that was so and she says she's nervous and unsure about herself, or some silly nonsensical argument I can't even remember now. Just 2 weeks ago, she called me up to tell me she can't take this any further. After being so intimately involved with someone, how can you just take such a decision yourself? And worse of all, she does not even give me a single reason as to why she does not want to be with me. It's killing me; I'd spoken about her to my family and friends and now its so embarassing. I gave it a break for a few days and then finally called her to ask why she did this to me; she admitted that she still misses being with me and talking to me, just that she wants us to be friends and nothing more now. I still want to win her back and marry her. What should I do ? Please suggest.

- Chris

Answers (2)

Mark said on
I completely understand what you are going through. Expectations ruin everyone!

First of all, you should try to forget the girl. Every girl says let be friends only, but such a thing can never exist between past lovers. So, break the remaining friendship with her. Try to get her out of your head. You need to forget her as quickly as possible. She did what she did, accept it! and move on! It was not your fault, but you can not even blame her for this thing. Matters related to heart, love and marriage do not always work on logic. When someone says no to your proposal, you only need to accept the reality and move on as if the incident never actually happened.
Lee1979 said on
6 months is not a long time to be together, but it is a good length of time to sense an incompatibility between the two of you. She would feel that things may not work out between the two of you long term and has had the courage to end the relationship before it progresses any further.
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