Is there anything worse than living with a secret narcissist?
First of all, let me start by saying how sorry I am that you're dealing with this behavior from someone you love! For those who aren't in the know about what a covert narcissist is, here are some of the telltale signs you're dating one:
Your spouse has a superiority complex
Self-absorbed/obsessed/think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread
They're incredibly smug
Always acting misunderstood
Can never be wrong
They are impersonal with you, your friends, and your family
Can't empathize with anyone but themselves
Passive-aggressive behavior is their forte
This behavior shows that not all narcissists have a "Look at me! Look at me!" attitude. No. Some of them are like secret agents, operating in the dark.
I read a great article on how to identify narcissists if you're interested in learning more!
Here are some tips for dealing with a covert narcissist husband:
Stop giving him 100% of your time and attention - this just feeds his narcissism!
Stand up for yourself - don't let him think that he can walk all over you
Ask him to go to couples counseling - this can help him grow out of his selfish behavior
Open the lines of communication
Find a support system
Know when to leave
Don't make yourself believe that you need to stay in a toxic marriage. Your health, happiness, and safety should come first on your list of priorities.