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Fiance acquired parents' spending habits, parents support it.

My fiancé and I, in our early 20’, are getting married in six months. 1/3 of our event is paid for, mostly by my savings. Recently, he got a promotion and a significant raise, but has yet to contribute to the saving. He is a huge spender and gets it from his parents, who are impulse buyers. Don’t get me wrong, they are good people, I just don’t agree with their financial decisions. Once he wants something, he gets it. We have had issues in the past about this, but it has never been this major.
In the past month, unexpectedly, I had to buy a new car, though I had been thinking about it for the last year and a half. I knew I was not in the best financial position to buy something nice, so I stuck to a low budget. Two days later, my fiancé decides to buy a new car too, because he wants an upgrade. The car he wanted was way over budget. Note: he has spent thousands of dollars on former his car to enhance the look of it in the past.
I had told him I do not support the decision, because we cannot afford to entertain his “hobby.” We have a wedding and a house to save for; the money could go towards something worthwhile. He continued to inform me on how he could afford it on his own without an issue and save for the wedding. I was hesitant, but I compromised and ask if he was willing to wait until after the wedding, he did not agree. My thoughts were no. He should not get the car at this time.
He didn’t like that, so he went to his parents and told her about our disagreement. They willingly handed him a $10,000 check and told him it was for us to use on whatever we needed (them meaning the car). They told him to push through my opinion.  
Without my knowledge of the check, He tells me he just wants to go “look” at the car. I was frustrated he was still thinking about the it, but I let it go (still unaware of the check). I noticed there was a “sold” sign on it and asked why. He had told me about the check at this time. He told me we had been given a check from his parents, but not to worry, because he was going to put $1,000 towards the wedding.
The money could have paid for our entire wedding and rest could have gotten us a step ahead on our honeymoon or a house. I told him I was disappointed he did not discuss the check with me before he spent it, because I would have been willing to come up with some sort of compromise, had he not gone behind my back.
He does not agree with my stand point and still thinks what he did was okay, because his parents said it was. Without a sign of remorse, he has been showing off his new car. I have asked to sit down with a financial advisor, but he thinks spending the money on someone like that is ridiculous. Um, but not on the car?
How can he not talk about this with me? Why do his parents’ views trump mine? How do I marry someone who is financially irresponsible and attached to their parents’ decisions? I am at a loss. I have never felt such disappointment in my relationship. I am looking for genuine advice that can keep my future marriage from falling apart.

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