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How to talk to my husband about sex toys and porn?

Hi, I've been married for almost a year and my husband's sex drive has diminished a lot.
We used to have sex about 4 or 5 times a week for about a year (about 6 months dating and 3 months married), but now we barely get it on once a week.
He just switched jobs and we moved to a new country and I understand he is under a lot of pressure, but I know from his browser history that he has been watching porn about three times a week.
I dont pry, he leaves the porn tabs open and, as we share computers, I run across them.
I've tried approaching the subject calmly and asking if he wants to try something new but he denies it and doesnt want to talk about it.
I know he is curious about anal sex and toys from his porn searches, which are pretty softcore, btw.
So i want to try some of them with him.
The problem is he is a mexican, typical christian macho man who says masturbation and porn are wrong even though he does it on the side.
I am totally okay with both and, honestly, using a vibrator at least would really be great for me too, since lately he just finishes in two minutes and barely even tries to touch me.
Should I even try to talk to him about it or would I be risking damaging his masculinity too much? I am at my wit's end here.
Thanks and sorry fpr the long post!

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Well, always try to be open when you are in marriage because a simple talk can ease up the pressure. Just be calm and talk to him and believe me it will make thing much more comfortable for you. Couple use sex toys more often then we think as they make thing easier and pleasurable for both.

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