how to believe in him again?
Hi there, My husband and I are newlywed.
1 year or so.
We went overseas for a holiday and his sister came along.
She was acting in a rude manner towards me and my parents at the time.
We had an argument with his sister where she was so rude at me I had to raise my voice.
She is very stubborn and doesn't care what your views are.
I mentioned this to my husband word for word after the incident as he was not next to us at the time.
He told me you know how she is just let it go I know she can be a pain at times.
Anyways after our holiday, I was browsing through my husband's phone and I came across my husband's and his sisters Whatsapp messages.
She was complaining about me to him and saying how rude I was and that she understood how he felt.
He said that I was never understanding and I don't realize until after an argument that I am wrong.
He backed her up instead of me to her.
I was devastated and shocked.
I later questioned him that did his sister ever mentioned the argument to him.
He replied saying no.
I faced another lie.
I confronted him that he was lying and we again had another argument.
I told him not to lie to my face, Its been a year since this incident and I can't trust a word my husband says.
I lost affection towards him.
I only sleep with him so I can browse through his phone while he's in the shower after.
I hate my condition.
I don't believe a word he says and still wonder if he talks about our problems with his sister I don't know what to do or how to forget this betrayal.
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