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How do I feel confident in myself after husband’s cheating and porn usage?

He told me he just wanted to see and look at a different body-types and he was bored of my body.
Am I overthinking this or is it okay that this deeply offends me? 

2 Answers

Xena69 Answered:

Respect is not in your marriage. For your husband to call you that is like a slap in your face. I know all men look at porn. If my husband said that to me I would ask him to get out. He is so in to watching porn he dont even realized what he said to you. It will break a marrage. Its breaking his vowels he said to you when you got married. Infidelity right in your home. If you dont like it tell him why. Ask if he wants to go to counsel. You should not have to hear that from your husband who says he loves you. That is a terrible way to have a Happy Marriage.


Replied on Oct 20, 2018

Sadly he knew how I felt about it, and I specifically told him not to marry me if he couldn’t handle that.
We have sex every day or every other day and he has lots of nude pictures and videos so I assumed that was enough.

Jmm2018 Answered:

Men seem to be very visually stimulated, but with that being said... you are his wife and I feel like the “bored” comment was unnecessary. I think you are complete valid in your feelings of being hurt. Any woman would be gravely offended by that comment. Focus on yourself. What are some things that make you feel pretty and confident? For me, it’s when I wear makeup, hair done a certain way, wearing heels etc. Find what it was that made you a gorgeous confident woman, that attracted your husband in the first place. Marriage is such hard work, even harder when there are trust issues involved. Anything worth having, never comes easy.

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