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What to do when husband asks for threesome

My husband brought up wanting to have a threesome.
But not the typical threesome.
He asked for MMF.
Completely straight.
He said he would like to see me be with another man.
He said he thought it would be something that I would enjoy.
I feel uncomfortable with this and don’t want to do this.
He said that it was fine and he’s okay with my decision, but I know he’s disappointed.
Should I cave and give him what he wants?

2 Answers

WorriedWife9 Answered:

There seems to be a notion that men own their wife's body. People don't say it that way, but that's what this makes me think. He's basically asking you to have an affiair for his viewing pleasure. That isn't loving behavior. That's disrespectful of you and of your marriage. That fact that it upsets you is enough validation to say that it's wrong for you. If the idea was thrilling and exciting, then that would be a different story. Why do you have to be worried about disappointing him when he just hurt you like this? You absolutely do not need to be whored out for his pleasure and don't feel bad about yourself for saying no! It's your body and your marriage and you have every right to say no to requests that make you uncomfortable. If he wants you to do something that's hurtful for you, then he isn't being a good partner and that's something he needs to work through.

Dedra110 Answered:

You shouldn’t cave in at all. This is a big decision and it is absolutely your choice. I think with porn men have become accustomed to watching women in situations like this and enjoy sitting back and watching. I wouldn’t be worry about his sexuality, I think he purely just would like to recreate what he’s seen online. Maybe you could choose something else to act out with just the two of you. Maybe spice things up in a different way.

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Jmm2018
Replied on Oct 16, 2018

Thank You for your advice.
I guess I’m hurt by all this because in my mind, if you truly love someone then you couldn’t stand to see them with someone else.
I would lose my mind if I saw him have sex with another woman.
But like you said, porn has messed with guys heads on how they view sex.

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