Is it time to divorce?
I am 29. Been married 11 years. My husband has been partially detached for a while, and by detached I mean doesnt want to hold hands, never wants to kiss me, never wants to hang out together, for the last 3-4 years. He tends to not want to celebrate our anniversary the last 2 years, and almost never does anything for my birthday the last few years as well. Here lately though, it has been worse. A lot worse. I am 28 wks pg with #3. He has always made it known he doesnt like 'big' women, and calls me a whale every day. Hint taken. He never compliments me anymore at all and never spends any time at all with me. He jokes about doing 'it' all the time, but when I come in the living room after getting the kids to sleep, he almost visibly panics until one of the kids wake up or something and then is very obviously relieved. If they don't, he makes an almost immediate excuse to go to bed. I have actually caight him in the bathroom getting some alone time with his phone (if you know what I mean) so I know it's not a libido thing. I don't think it's fair. If he isn't attracted to me when I'm carrying his child, then he doesn't deserve it when I'm not. I just miss the way it used to be. Talking together, spending time together. He wasnt afraid to touch me for the first few years... I'm just tired of being a pariah in his life. I'm not even 30 yet. I don't think I can live my life like this... and yes, I have talked to him and he just jokes about everything and then walks off. He won't be serious about any of it and refuses any kind of counseling. I don't know what to do at this point...
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