I think she's taking me for granted.
It all started when I met her at this amusement park in New Jersey.
I couldn’t really afford that trip, but all my expenses were paid for because it was the prize from a win free tour contest the company I work for organizes each year.
It was really hot that day and as I was lining up for some cotton candy and soda, she accidentally bumped into me and dropped her wallet.
I handed the item back to her and met her eyes; which is the precise moment when I knew she was the one.
She smiled at me and we ended up spending the rest of the day together, stuffing our faces with junk food and getting on the more exciting rides.
We’d been going out for 3 years when she decided it was time she moved in with me.
Now several months down the line, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore.
She hardly speaks to me when she’s home and she’s always out and about with her girlfriends / office mates.
I feel like she’s completely taken me for granted and I’m just some guy she comes home to.
When I look into her eyes, I feel like she’s just not the woman I fell in love with on that sweltering day in NJ.
Should I open up to her? Do the same thing and give her the cold shoulder? I don’t want to lose her, but if her feelings have changed, then I don’t want to be the person that holds her back.
There could be many reasons for this problem. Due to work she might get exhausted at the end of the day and prefer to sleep rather talking to you.
But if this is happening on frequent terms, then you should speak to her about this.
Share what you exactly feel about such behaviour. Express politely that you think she is taking you for granted and that you feel like she's no more in love with you.
Try to understand her opinion. See if it’s because of the peers or work pressure or for some other reasons that you are not aware of.
Be calm, polite in asking her for a conversation and try to come out with a suitable and mutual solution on this. You can also opt for couples therapy which can help you improve romantic relationships and resolve interpersonal conflicts.