Mom is grieving. I don’t know how to console her.
My dad just recently passed away a few weeks ago and after all the silent grieving, my mom has finally started to speak again.
One night, she and I were having dinner together, just the two of us, and we got into the topic of her past with my dad.
She told me how they first met through a new years party dating service event they both worked in and when they started talking, she knew that he was the one.
They proceeded to have a wonderful dating period and soon later after that, they got into a married life together.
She continued to tell me all about his accomplishments in life and how she’s so proud of him.
She explained on and on how he was a great man and then started to cry.
Ever since the talk, she’s been crying every night before she goes to sleep.
I feel bad that I might have brought up the topic and led her to open up some fresh wounds.
I don’t know how to console people and I really want my mom to feel better.
Can someone give me some advice on this?
I'm so sorry to hear about you father. That is such an incredibly difficult thing to go through, especially when you're dealing with the loss and comforting your loved ones at the same time.
The best thing you can do for your mother is to be there for her. Nothing will heal her broken heart except time, and even then, the memory of your father and the pain of his passing will always be with her. Just show her support and take her out every now and again so that she isn't stuck at home reliving her pain.
This makes me think of an article I read about overcoming the mental agony after losing a spouse . Reading this may put you in a better headspace about how your mother feels and better navigate the best ways to help her.
Hope you get the strength to cope with this difficult time!