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Gf spends way too much money on online shopping

My gf is seriously bugging me with her online shopping expenses.
Ever since she’s gotten a debit card from her new job, she’s been spending non stop on useless clothes.
One example is her buying a winter jacket when she lives in the Philippines which is a TROPICAL country.
She also makes up her own reasons on why she buys them in the first place.
Her reason for the jacket was so she could wear it when she comes to “visit me and it might be winter.
” Seriously guys… I don’t know what to do about this.
The first time we met during an Asian dating tour, she didn't strike me as someone materialistic.
Ever since we got together shortly after, she never asked me for anything.
Then all of a sudden when she got her new job at a big company, she’s been shopping non stop.
She’s even sent me gifts online! I’m just really concerned about her spending habits and savings.
How can I approach this to her nicely? Should I even bring this up with her at all? She explains to me that she knows what she’s doing but as someone who’s much older than her, I’m not so sure that she does.

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CindyBaker Answered:

First off, since she is spending off her own money, that she happens to be her hard earned money, there is no reason you should be fretting. Even as a genuine well-wisher, who wants her to keep a tab on her spending habits, you should not push her or impose on her your own discretion. To each his own. Maybe, this is her way of pepping herself up after a month-long slogging at work. Alternatively, you can suggest to her that in conjunction with her spendings she can also save some or invest a certain fixed amount and watch it grow, so eventually when she has a handsome amount saved, after the delayed gratification by saving aside some money, she can spend it a big fancy item or save for a dream car or any other asset, that would be a possession of joy to her.


Replied on May 07, 2018

Exactly, I agree with CindyBaker.
It's her money to begin with and beyond that if she is falling in any kind of financial crunch, then it would be appropriate for you to approach her and have a talk with her about her expenses.
Even my girlfriend keeps buying stuff every other day and she used to end up with almost no money by the last week of every month.
I had a talk with her and now she does listen to me and she's controlling her expenses.

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