Kimberly VanBuren

Kimberly VanBuren, MA, LMFT, LPC-S
Therapist and Life Management Coach

Kimberly is an experienced Marriage and Family Therapist who understands the importance of a healthy work-life balance. She and the Balancing Act team provide training and support to organizations, small groups, and individuals by…...
510 Med Court Suite 106 , San Antonio, Texas, 78258
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My Contributions

Having a Hard Time in Your Marriage? Questions to Ask Yourself

When we get married something happens to us. We start thinking about what marriage means, how we should ...

How to Maintain Balance in a Relationship

What are the rules? Once we are in a committed relationship and moving down the path of relationship ...
Chriselda Santos

Chriselda Santos, MA LPC-S CCP
Counselor

Chriselda Santos is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor in San Antonio, Texas. She is a doctoral candidate in Marriage & family therapy PhD. Couples therapy is one of her specialties (10yrs experience assisting…...
Life Balance Therapy, 4201 Medical Dr. Ste. 330, San Antonio, Texas, 78229
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My Contributions

Benefits of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is never a person s favorite thing to do because it means facing fears and working out ...
Irv Loev

Dr. Irv Loev, PhD.
Counselor

Irv Loev has received a Ph.D. from Brigham Young University and has been in private practice as a Marriage and Family Counselor in San Antonio, Texas for the past 30 years. Through years of counseling couples, Dr. Loev has…...
7300 Blanco Road, #201, San Antonio, Texas, 78216

My Contributions

How Counseling Can Help Couples Recuperate from the Damages of Infidelity

In my opinion, the number one stressor in marriages is sex problems. This includes quality and frequency. ...

Find the Perfect Therapist in San Antonio

There’s nothing wrong in seeking help. You sometimes just need someone to talk to, to share your problems with and get to the roots in a secure, confident environment. Therapists are all ears to you!

Life’s all about taking the next step forward. A new relationship, a new career, relocation, finances or family, at times, can be a bit unnerving and challenging, so, it’s absolutely normal to seek assistance.

Therapy is incredibly effective for people with mental health conditions and it’s worth it even if you don’t have any medical issue.

Therapy is a magnificently versatile tool, it isn’t just the answer to impregnable relationships troubles. It is also the answer to trivial, seemingly inconsequential issues encountered in a relationship. Therapy shouldn’t be the last resort to salvage a bond but the stepping stone to nip surfacing issues in the bud.

Though therapy offers the required assistance to sail through miniscule issues to deeper marital hiccups, resolving tiffs before they fester into graver problems can save you from the forthcoming pain and heartbreak.

However, even if you’re facing serious personal conflict or mental health issues in your life, you don’t have to feel hopeless! Remember, this too shall pass.

All you need to do is talk to a licensed therapist. Finding a therapist can be overwhelming, but not here. We help you find the right therapist for you, in your city.

How can I tell if a therapist is right for me?

It’s easy to tell if your therapist:

  • Is located in your area.
  • Specializes in your issue.
  • Behaves ethically, shows professional and empathic behavior.
  • Talks about confidentiality and emergency protocol.
  • Recommends therapy that never conflicts your values and beliefs.
  • Never overshares and knows boundaries.
  • Listens you, remembers key facts and concerns.
  • Is trustworthy and likeable.
  • makes you feel everything is ‘right’.

Not sure what questions to ask a therapist

These sample questions may help you.

  • My problem is [Your Problem]. How would you go about treating that?
  • How will my confidentiality be assured?
  • How available are you, even beyond the sessions?
  • What are your fees?
  • Do you accept insurance?
  • How long do you typically work with clients?
  • Does your therapy more focused on past or present?

How can I set goals for therapy?

Now that you are here seeking help, you have passed the first hurdle. Congratulations! But therapists do not have magic wands, they can’t make our problems vanish in thin air. Don’t let ungrounded expectations make your therapy sessions fruitless. Be objective about what it is that your desire from therapy. For that, you need to set to goals. Goal setting is important because it equips you to make a smooth transition from a messy headspace to a clearer state of mind.

Here are some things to consider when setting SMART goals for therapy-

Specific- Set specific goals. Chalk out the specific pain points of your relationship and aim to resolve them through therapy.

Measurable- Make sure that the goals are measurable. For instance, if you are not spending enough time with each other, you can set goals like going out on a date at least once a week.

Attainable- Be realistic when setting goals, they should be attainable. Talk to your therapist and get a fair idea of what you should be able to achieve through therapy. Then, set goals accordingly.

Relevant- The goals should be relevant. Say for an example, if you and your partner have pent up resentment, then setting goals like going on date nights is not going to help. You have to set relevant goals that will help to resolve the existing resentment Again, talk to your therapist about the kind of goals you should have.

Time frame- Set a realistic time frame when setting a goal. Keep in mind your current relationship dynamics. Years of accumulated damage in a relationship can’t be repaired overnight.

What can be my treatment options?

Ask your therapist about your treatment options, like medication, dietary changes, lifestyle changes or alternative healing therapies. You therapist will discuss each treatment option in detail, along with their pros and cons.